Before She Freaks Like you I heard Carrie Underwoods' great song "Before He Cheats" and initially thought the guy got what he deserved. However after listening to it several times I began to have misgivings of the message of the song and realized that this retribution to this man was actually not the proper way to resolve this incident. First it didn't seem certain the woman portrayed in the song was really sure that her boyfriend was in fact cheating. Secondly it seemed wrong that she should destroy his property. Given the same circumstances if the tables were turned, would the supposedly cheating boyfriend be awarded the same sympathy as the woman (portrayed by Carrie Underwood) in the song has? I tend to think not. Also it seemed that the (girlfriend portrayed by Carrie Underwood) woman lowered herself to her boyfriends position by destroying his property. I think the correct path would have been for her to walk away from the relationship. I believe that action would have empowered her and built her self-esteem in a difficult situation such as this song portrayed. By destroying the boyfriends' truck she gave her self -esteem away. She gave him power by retaliating with a criminal act. Therefore I felt it was my duty to give the man's response to this story. One: It really isn't a good idea to mess with a man's truck. Two: You lose your higher ground when you act in a matter as this woman (portrayed by Carrie Underwood) did. Your strength whether you be a man or a woman, is by acting with integrity and self-esteem which this hit song does not advocate. In the spirit of good fun and constructive criticism I have written this answer to the popular song. Of note: I struggled with whether I should make this man guilty or innocent. I chose to make this boyfriend guilty as sin. The reason being is that whether he was guilty or not the actions taken by the girlfriend are never justified even if he was in fact guilty. Thus the justification for the last lines in the song "And you can stop calling her a bleach blond tramp...the Carpet matched the drapes."
1) Before She Freaks - Martin R. King